Dear friends“Sometimes you will never know the value of a moment until it becomes a memory,” wise words indeed from the incomparable Dr Seuss.During October I banned myself from reading any fiction. I have so many non- fiction books on my “to be read” pile that I needed to take drastic action. It`s hard. My reading matter at the moment relates to grief journeys and dementia!My Aunt has dementia so I condensed about 40 photograph albums into one large memory book and it was incredible to see how that unlocked some of my Aunt`s memories when we were able to see her. I want the people who are caring for her to know what she was like and the adventures that she had.We can have memories of people, events, and places. How often do you hear a piece of music and it immediately unlocks a memory? Memories are so important in helping us develop a sense of identity and belonging.On the 1 st November we have our “All Souls” service when we particularly remember those we have loved and no longer see and perhaps on that day we will share memories that will make us laugh and cry in equal measure and it is good to remember and share those stories.On the 8th November we have Remembrance Sunday where we remember all those who have died in war, preserving our freedom. “At the going down of the sun and in the morning, we will remember them.”Both our services at All Souls and Remembrance will be different during COVID but we can still remember in a myriad of ways.In the Bible Moses told the Israelites before they entered the Promised Land to always remember God`s faithfulness.<span style="font-size: 1rem;">On the cross one of the thieves asked Jesus to remember him. Each time we have communion, “Do this in remembrance of me”, we remember the life, death and resurrection of Christ.</span>No matter how we are feeling at the moment we need to remember that God will never forget us. He has each of our names tattooed on the palms of his hands. Our memories of God`s faithfulness can be a welcome lifeboat in dark times. .So continue to make memories and keep remembering that God is with you always.Love Christina
Dear friends,So many people at the moment are grieving. Some grieve the loss of a loved one or an unwelcome diagnosis. Some are still shielding and grieving the lack of human contact. Others grieve the lack of holidays and family outings. There is grief about the loss of a sense of a normal life and the absence of a feeling of safety. We have also moved from summer into colder, darker times and that can make us sad.We are moving towards All Souls where we remember all who have died and it is a time of year for remembrance, reflection and for many a time of grief.I have become rather obsessed by “the Repair Shop” on the BBC ever since visiting the Wield and Downland Museum, where it is filmed. If you have never watched it, the premise is simple. People bring items that have great sentimental value and are in need of repair and the experts get to work. Somebody brought in a handmade toy Spitfire which was the only item left that connected a family with an uncle who died at the Battle of Britain. There are a myriad of things brought in. I am always telling Nathaniel that the most important things in life aren’t things, but sometimes they are important. At the moment it may be a photo of you being hugged, a family holiday itinerary, a love letter or something you have been given. It may be a bear that is great to hug when things seem hard. At this time when we remember people who have died, talking about them, sharing stories is so important.<span style="font-size: 1rem;">I read a lovely quote from Jamie Anderson “Grief I’ve learned, is really just love. It’s all the love you want to give but cannot. All that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat and in that hollow part of your chest. Grief is just love with no place to go.”</span>When each of us are feeling some degree of sadness we need to be kind to ourselves and need to show compassion to others. Jesus experienced grief and loss and we can be assured that however we are feeling, he is with us.Remember it is ok not to be ok and everyone’s grief journey is different. No one can tell you how you should be feeling. So take time out for yourself but also reach out to someone who may just want to talk. The Ministry Team are always available if you want someone to listen or want prayer.It’s good to talk.Love Christina
We always make New Resolutions in the New Year. However, September and October are also useful times to reflect on the next months ahead and changes we might make. September/October marks a new school term, new university term and, for most, a return to normal work after, hopefully, some time for relaxation over the Summer. Of course, this year, has been a very different start to the academic year. As I write, COVID-19 outbreaks are still rising and we may face more serious lockdown as the weeks progress. For me, October marks, God willing, my priesting in Chester Cathedral on 3rd October. This will be a very curtailed ceremony as the cohort will be divided into three groups, with only two visitors per candidate allowed in the cathedral. There will be a live screening in the refectory for three additional visitors only. However, one shouldn’t complain. It is the culmination of several years of discernment and a rollercoaster of a journey shared with friends and family members. It is not about personal validation or supremacy. The role of the priest is a humble role; it is one in which we are servants of Christ and would do well not to forget that. This is a ministry of servanthood and, as Stephen Cottrell, the Archbishop of York, writes in his new book “On Priesthood”, the stoles we wear around our necks are ”towels of service.” Paul also writes to the Philippians “ Let each of you look not to your own interests, but to the interests of others. Let the same mind be in you that was in Christ Jesus.” So, my priesting will be a small ceremony but that is fine. <span style="font-size: 1rem;">My greatest sadness is that this Autumn is my first birthday without any parents to spend it with, and also no parent to share my priesting with. I am what is now defined as an “adult orphan.” Without the protective illusion of a parent’s timeless presence, the future suddenly seems more urgent. There are precious memories which contain the roots of life, but parents are the last connection to that unless we have siblings too, which share in those moments, and I am an only child.</span>So, life is brief, we must all use our time wisely and as Stephen Cottrell also writes ”Find enough time to sleep, enough time to pray, then do what you can.”Please keep me in your prayers as I begin life as a priest and I pray that all our ministries would bring the message of Christ to others.Blessings to you all,Jenny
Dear Friends,You will no doubt be aware that there are parts of the Church of England thatdo not accept the right of women to enter the priesthood or to hold the postof Bishop. That is their theology and the Anglican Church is a broad churchwhich seeks to embrace all views. It was only in 1994 that women wereadmitted to the priesthood and Libby Lane was the first woman to beconsecrated as a Bishop in 2015.People outside the church find this concept of women being excluded fromleadership roles difficult in an age where you cannot legally face discriminationdue to sex.Women matter to God. Unfortunately throughout the history of the churchthat has not been evident.On 22nd July it was the feast day of Mary Magdalene, healed by Jesus, she wasone of his most loyal followers, remaining at the foot of the cross and meetingJesus in the garden following his resurrection. It was Mary who told the otherdisciples about the resurrection earning the title “the apostle to the apostles”.She was however branded as a prostitute by Pope Gregory in the 6 th Centurywith no Biblical support. St Paul is often quoted in the arguments againstwomen in ministry yet he valued them, for example he entrusted his Letter tothe Romans to Phoebe- a woman.Women matter to God. We all matter to God.I think a huge problem is when the world views people as less. Everyonematters to God. He created each person on earth in his image. Everyone hasvalue and God can work by grace through all of us.God so loved the world that he gave his only Son, so that everyone whobelieves in him should not perish but have eternal life. Everyone. Not a select <span style="font-size: 1rem;">few.</span>Everyone matters to God. Everyone should matter to us. Not just the peoplewe like but everyone, irrespective of age or gender or views.God places a high value on individuals.Never feel that you don`t matter, because you matter to God and to us.If anyone tries to put you down – look them in the eye and say “I am a child ofGod and I am fearfully and wonderfully made.”You matter.Christina
