Getting Married at St Mary's
Why get married in Church?
A marriage service, wherever it is held, is a public declaration of love and commitment to your partner. If you choose to get married in church, there is an added dimension - the assurance that God cares about your relationship and that his resources and strength are available to you. That doesn’t mean that you will avoid completely the usual ups and downs of married life, but you will know that you can look to God for help and guidance and that his love will sustain you. You will also have the support of your Church Family.
Can I get married at St Mary's?
In order to qualify to get married here you either need to be resident in the Parish (click here to check if you live in the Parish) or one of you needs to fulfil at least one of the criteria below:* one of you was baptised or prepared for confirmation in the parish
* one of you has lived in the parish for six months or more
* one of you has at any time regularly attended public worship in the parish for six months or more
* one of your parents has lived in the parish for six months or more in your lifetime
* one of your parents has regularly attended public worship here for six months or more in your lifetime
* your parents or grandparents were married in the parish
* one of you is on the Electoral Roll of the Parish (you can join this after attending this church for 6 months)
(All of these refer to Church of England services)
When can I get married at St Mary's?
We conduct weddings on most days of the year between 11am & 4pm with the following exceptions:
We do not conduct weddings* on a Sunday
* on the 3rd Saturday of June (Wistaston Village Fete!)
* on a Bank Holiday
* on Good Friday, Easter Saturday or Easter Monday
* on Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, Boxing Day or New Years Eve
Wedding enquiries for any date after the 3rd Sunday of December, except those mentioned above, would be considered, but as this is an extremely busy time in the life of the church, priority would be given to church events and requests would be looked at on an individual basis.
If you choose a weekday for your wedding please note that we cannot always guarantee a Choir or Bell Ringers - but we would try our best.
How much will it cost?
In 2019 the cost of a basic wedding is £676.00. This gives you everything you need to get married including a minister, organist, Banns* (at St Mary's) & Registration.
Other options include the Choir at £80.00 & the Bells at £159.00.
To view full details of the fees for this year and estimates for subsequent years please see below.
* if you don't live in the parish of St Mary's you will also have to pay an additional fee to your local parish church for the Publication of your Banns - currently £43.00.
What about Flowers, Confetti, Photos, Video & Orders of Service?
We are happy for you to have all of the above! We are happy for you to have a Florist or for you to do the flowers yourselves. Confetti, absolutely, as long as it's outside the church! Photography & Videography is welcome in church as long as it's not obtrusive. We have had many of the local photographers in church and they understand working in churches. If you are having a video then you may need a Performing Rights Society licence. We would encourage you to produce an Order of Service, but it's not essential, we have an example of an Order of Service on our Wedding Resouces page. It really doesn't have to be too fancy!
What if one of us is divorced?
The Church of England teaches that marriage is for life. It also recognises that sadly some marriages do fail and if this should happen it seeks to be available for all involved. The Church accepts that it is possible in some circumstances for a divorced person to marry again in church during the lifetime of a former spouse. However, this is not always the case, so before you set a date please contact the Rector to talk this through. He will want to meet you both, before deciding whether a marriage in church is appropriate in your circumstances. Please also note that we only conduct weddings for divorced people who live in the parish. Click here to check if you live in the Ecclesiastical parish of Wistaston. You would also need supply a Decree Absolute for the wedding to take place.
You must be old enough
If you are under 18 years old you will need your parents’ consent to marry and by law you can not be married in the UK until you are 16.
Changes to same-sex marriage legislation
Although same sex-marriage legislation is now in force, it remains the case that it is not legally possible for same-sex couples to marry in the Church of England.