GraveTalk - a cafe space to talk about death, dying, and funerals

Occurring
for 2 hours
Venue
Clare, St Peter & St Paul
Address
High Street Clare Suffolk, CO10 8NY, United Kingdom

It’s not easy to think about your own funeral. Talking about death, dying and funerals raises big questions that we need to face at some point, but it’s hard to talk to family and friends.

The Church of England has been helping people think about these questions for centuries.

GraveTalk is a café space, organised by your Parish church, where people can talk about these big questions. The conversation is helped along by GraveTalk conversation cards – 52 questions covering five key areas.

Join us as we gather to talk and share their thoughts about death, dying and funerals.

What happens at a GraveTalk event?

We meet in Clare Parish Church, where everyone will be welcomed by Revd Mark and then invited to sit at tables with three or four others.

The GraveTalk cards will be on the tables, and each group picks a question and uses it to start a conversation. It doesn’t matter if you only use one question, or work through all of them! The purpose is to talk and listen.

Light refreshments are offered throughout the event, which lasts about an hour, or longer if needed.

We will also be joined by representatives for local funeral directors who will be available to answer any questions about the practical aspects around what happens when someone dies.

The event is FREE and open to all.

Cavendish, St Mary the Virgin

The church is in one of the prettiest settings of any in Suffolk with half-timbered, thatched cottages clustered round it. The handsome exterior reflects the great wealth of the Middle Ages with its impressive stair turret on the 14th century tower rising above the battlements.

What's special?

Light pours in through the vast east window and in the nave is a lavish 16th century gilded altarpiece of the crucifixion. The 19th and 20th century glass is high quality and there’s an elaborate tomb for Sir George Colt who died in 1570.
The priest would have had a room in the tower with a window looking on to the high altar. He had a fireplace for which a chimney can still be seen at the top of the tower.

How old is it?

A Saxon church stood on the site, then a Norman church; another church was started in the 14th century and in 1381 Sir John Cavendish built the chancel. The north aisle, nave arcade and clerestory were added in the 15th century and the Victorians had another go in 1862.

Famous connections

The inspirational Sue Ryder set up a charitable foundation at her mother’s house in the village that became home to people with physical and mental disabilities. She married Leonard Cheshire who founded the Cheshire Homes and the couple lived in Cavendish.

Sir John Cavendish was Chief Justice of the King’s Bench in the reign of Richard II and beheaded during the Peasants Revolt  of 1381.


Get in touch

The Revd Mark Woodrow

The Vicarage
14 High Street
Clare

CO10 8NY
The Revd Mark Woodrow - Rector
01787 277515
Dr Graham Jenkin - Churchwarden
07979 194287

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GraveTalk - a cafe space to talk about death, dying, and funerals

Occurring
for 2 hours
Venue
Clare, St Peter & St Paul
Address
High Street Clare Suffolk, CO10 8NY, United Kingdom

It’s not easy to think about your own funeral. Talking about death, dying and funerals raises big questions that we need to face at some point, but it’s hard to talk to family and friends.

The Church of England has been helping people think about these questions for centuries.

GraveTalk is a café space, organised by your Parish church, where people can talk about these big questions. The conversation is helped along by GraveTalk conversation cards – 52 questions covering five key areas.

Join us as we gather to talk and share their thoughts about death, dying and funerals.

What happens at a GraveTalk event?

We meet in Clare Parish Church, where everyone will be welcomed by Revd Mark and then invited to sit at tables with three or four others.

The GraveTalk cards will be on the tables, and each group picks a question and uses it to start a conversation. It doesn’t matter if you only use one question, or work through all of them! The purpose is to talk and listen.

Light refreshments are offered throughout the event, which lasts about an hour, or longer if needed.

We will also be joined by representatives for local funeral directors who will be available to answer any questions about the practical aspects around what happens when someone dies.

The event is FREE and open to all.

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Safeguarding

Our Benefice is committed to safeguarding children, young people and adults from harm.

We follow the House of Bishops guidance and policies and have our own Benefice Safeguarding Officer (BSO).

Our Diocese’s safeguarding pages contain vital links and information including contacts for the Diocesan Safeguarding Advisor who advises our BSO.

If you are concerned that a child or adult has been harmed or may be at risk of harm please contact the BSO:
Mr Simon Cant Tel: 01284 789211 Email: [email protected]

or the Diocesan Safeguarding Advisor:
Mrs Karen Galloway Tel: 07785 621319 Email: [email protected]

or you may speak with the Rector:
The Revd Mark Woodrow Tel: 01787 277515 Email: [email protected]

If you have immediate concerns about the safety of someone, please contact the police and your local authority’s children or adult social care services (Suffolk County Council – 0808 800 4005).

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