Arranging a Wedding
We are delighted that you are considering being married at St Mary's Church in Stottesdon.
Where do you start?
The first thing to do is to contact the Rector, Revd Mark Daborn, who will guide you through the process of planning your wedding day. The meeting will usually take place over a cup of tea or coffee at the Rectory in Stottesdon. You will probably meet once or twice more in the run-up to your big day to make further arrangements and to prepare yourselves for marriage.
When should you come to see us?
As soon as you can. Most weddings are normally booked 12-18 months in advance, to enable all the different aspects and venues to be co-ordinated but it is possible to arrange a wedding in just a matter of a few weeks if that is what you both want.
Where can you get married?
Everyone has the legal right to be married for the first time in their local Parish Church, or one where they have a qualifying connection. Depending on your own personal circumstances, you may find that there are a number of Churches available where you could be married.
Banns are announcements in church of your intention to marry and a chance for anyone to put forward a reason why the marriage may not lawfully take place. They will take place on three Sundays in the run up to your wedding. If one or both of you live outside the parish where you are to married, banns must be also be read in your local Parish Church. On these occasions, everyone in your church will also be praying for you. It can be very special and moving, so do go along if you can.
Is being divorced a problem?
It could be. The Church of England believes that marriage is for life, but recognises that, sadly, some marriages fail – so depending on your personal circumstances, it may be possible to marry in Church following divorce. You’ll need to have a chat with the Rector to discuss this.
But I was never Christened
This too, is not a problem. Everyone, regardless of belief, is entitled to be married for the first time in their local Parish Church so it makes no difference to your wedding plans whether you have been baptised or not. If you would like to know more about being Christened (baptised) then feel free to mention it when you meet with the Rector.
Where else can you get information?
The Church of England has a very useful website for those considering marriage in Church. It will help you to get ideas for your service including music, readings and hymns. Visit yourchurchwedding.org to find out more.
How much will your wedding cost?
The cost of each wedding will vary depending on how much you want included and the exact requirements of your service. Some fees are set nationally, and others are local fees to cover costs of, for example, an organist. Speak to the Rector about this when you meet.