Church of England Diocese of Lincoln Barrowby

Special Occasions: Marriage

Congratulations on Your Engagement!

Would you like to get married at Barrowby? If so please read on...

Many couples marry in their own local church, but we understand that Barrowby church may be special to you even if you don’t live in the parish. Changes in the law back in 2008 made it easier to get married in a parish church if you can show just one of the following connections:

*Either of you were baptised or prepared for confirmation in the parish.

*Either of you has ever lived in the parish for six months or more.

*Either of you has at any time regularly attended public worship in the parish for six months or more

*Either of your parents has lived in the parish for six months or more in their child’s lifetime

*Either of your parents has regularly attended public worship there for six months or more in their child’s lifetime

*Either of your parents or grandparents were married in the parish.

If you have been previously married and divorced we would be pleased to offer you a Service of Blessing. Please get in touch to discuss this further.


Next Steps

There is some paperwork to complete, so please contact the Parish Office [email protected] and leave your details and we will be in touch.

Early in the year of your wedding, you will be offered either an evening or Saturday morning meeting with the Rector to talk about married life, and to discuss the details of your wedding day. This is usually conducted with two other couples.

At this first meeting, the date for the formal walk-through of the ceremony will be agreed. This is usually arranged to be within the last 2 weeks before the marriage. Below are some of the details we will also go through you at this first meeting.

Banns

Banns need to be read in the parish churches of both the Bride and the Groom. They are read for three Sundays within three months of the wedding.

Basic Order of the Service (About 30 minutes)

The Bridal March

Welcome, and Opening Prayer,

First Hymn

The Marriage

Second Hymn

Reading and Address

Prayers

Signing of the Registers

The Wedding March

Wedding Music

The organist would be pleased to consider other marches than the most commonly used ones - (the Wagner, and the Mendelssohn marches). For example - Trumpet Voluntary by Clark, Te Deum Prelude by Charpentier, The Arrival of the Queen of Sheba, by Handel. Other soloists - singers, musicians, who may perform during the signing of the registers, are welcome.

Wedding Hymns - Some Starter Suggestions

All things bright and beautiful...

And did those feet... (Jerusalem)

For the beauty of the earth...

Give me joy in my heart...

Lord of all hopefulness...

Morning has broken...

Now, thank we all our God...

Praise, my soul, the King of heaven...

Many wedding web sites give more suggestions for suitable hymns and music

Flowers

Here at All Saints we are very fortunate in having our own Flower Arranging Team lead by Mrs Jackie West, a qualified and experienced floral designer, who will create bespoke designs to your requirements and make the church look beautiful for your Special Day.

Please contact Jackie via [email protected] so that she can provide a quotation for your requirements and for you to have the opportunity to examine her portfolio of work.

We do understand, that you may have someone else in mind to create your displays. In this case please contact Jackie so that she can liaise with your supplier to explain what is permissible within the church; ensure there is no conflict of arrangements with the regular Sunday displays, and discuss plans for removal of the displays after the day.